I Want To Quit My Relationship With My Boyfriend Because We Disagree On Almost Everything





Dear Madam, God bless you for the work you do. I am going to keep this as short as possible. Pls i need your advice(pls hide my identity)....


 So some time last year my friend hooked me up with some guy. (I guess everyone was tired of my being single) i wasn't really interested in the hook up cos he isn't in the country (i hate long distance relationships) but my friend advised me to just go with the flow and see where it gets.




 But i had it at the back of my mind that i was eventually going to get someone in Nigeria and forget about him. Time went by, we talked and got used to each other. I could tell he really liked me alot. But i didn't feel the same way.


 He is really a sweet guy and has my best interest at heart but there was just something missing, i couldn't connect with him in that way. I told my friend this and she said its just a matter of time.


 We kept on talking. We got along really well.and i began to like him and gradually we became official. So one day he asked if I'd like to relocate to the UK, i told him i wouldn't mind, that i have always wanted to but my savings wouldn't be enough for that.(my job doesnt pay that much) he said he was going to assist the best way he can.(we all know how hard naija is, and i have enough responsibilities)I told my dad about the relocation, he said he doesn't have enough money but he'd help with what he has.


 Note that i didn't tell my folks about my bf assisting me, i just told them i was using my savings. With the little i had and from my dad ,with the assistance from my bf. We processed it and i got my visa. Everyone was happy. I was to travel in 4months.



 Things started to change with me and my bf, we started having loads of arguments, and i realised we are 2 different people.


We disagreed on almost everything. I began to wonder why i didn't see this. I became worried, my heart began to drift, for someone that i was learning to love, all these wasn't helping. I wasn't feeling the relationship anymore, so i decided not to travel anymore cos i don't want to land myself in one trouble that will be hard for me to get out of.


I told my friend, she called me a fool, that cant i see its the devil that is trying to ruin my progress(lol) and besides what will i tell my folks that has spent the little cash they have, that i should go that ill eventually fall in love with him and we will have a good relationship.and if it doesn't work out, that i should leave.


I became confused. Cos i know deep down my heart,i do not love him.and i already feel indebted to him as it is, and i don't want to be tagged an ingrate if things eventually dont work out, and i leave him.He is really a good and wonderful man. But i just don't think he is wonderful for me.


The last thing i want is to be unhappy and stay in relationship because i feel indebted to someone. I am supposed to leave in December, Do you think i should cancel my trip or still go and see if things could work out fine? Pls i need your advice urgently.

Thank you very much.



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